I told this story to Uli during our last GFNY Podcast (https://app.stitcher.com/splayer/f/50109/51784151“>) and thought I would share it with you as well.
Subsequent to my surgery to remove a cancerous tumor and testicle I visited with the oncologist who was going to treat me. When he let me know the treatment he proposed I explained to him that I had accepted what was going to happen to me, which he took as me accepting that I was going to die. I explained to him that I meant I was accepting that I had a serious issue that had to be dealt with in a serious way and that there were going to be difficulties along the road for the ensuing 12 weeks. Clearly I hoped that the treatment would create a positive result, but if not then we would deal with that at the appropriate time in the appropriate way. Of course I was hoping not to die. I have an incredible wife, I have brothers, sister, nieces and nephews and a great group of friends. I also believe I have something to offer in life. Living is my first choice; but if it isn’t meant to be then let;s not pay the price twice by suffering during the process – let’s live every day to the best of our ability and go from there.
I was simply accepting “what is”. Wishing that I didn’t have cancer would have only caused more difficulty for me and those around me thereby making a difficult situation more difficult. Those that know me know that I am not without emotion – I laugh, I cry, I try, I feel a lot – but what I try not to do is hurt myself by wishing something weren’t what it is.
The world is full of noise; sometimes we are in such pain from our own “what is” we find it easier to get caught up in that noise, even though we have no ability to directly effect the outcome, than to focus on our own well-being and goals.
We do however have the ability to positively affect the collective consciousness of the world by being our best possible self, accepting our “what is” in the present and working toward creating a better future. To be able to focus on our in and out breath while we take simple and effective action toward developing a better future for ourselves and our community helps us feel more in control of our destiny.
The climb is the climb, the grade is the grade, the elevation is the elevation – that is the “what is”. What will you do when you make the turn, the grade increases and the end is nowhere in sight? Fight and you will lose, of that there is no doubt. Surrender and you carry it with you to suffer again and again. Be present, focus on your in and out breath, do your best, accept the “what is”. Cycling mimics life.